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Welcome to MendRii. How are things in your relationships?

When something feels off but it’s hard to put into words, take a quiet, private look at the pattern.

  • Saying “no” leads to cold silence or a sudden crisis
  • The rules keep changing, and you end up apologizing
  • Money, friends, or your time feel less and less your own
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What is MendRii?

MendRii is a private, guided reflection on what happens, how often it happens, what happens when you say no, and whether you are becoming more or less free to make everyday choices. No score, no verdict, no diagnosis.

  • Gives you words for patterns that are hard to describe.
  • Asks about context: agreed, mutual, or consequences for saying no?
  • Keeps your answers in your browser — nothing is sent to us.
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What is Coercive Control?

Coercive control is a repeated pattern that makes one person less free to make everyday choices. It can be subtle, and it does not have to involve physical violence. You don’t need to know whether that label fits before you begin.

Walking on eggshells

Do you find yourself changing what you do, who you see, or how you speak because you’re worried about how someone might react—or because it’s easier to keep the peace?

Take your time. There is no right answer, and nothing is saved.

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Relationship Pattern Check-In

13 guided questions. You can skip any question. Your answers stay on this device.

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  • Complete 13-question guided Check-In
  • Private, plain-language pattern results
  • Daily 30-second check with a weekly graph
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  • Optional broad-area history saved only on this device
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Interwoven purple and teal awareness ribbon

Why purple and teal?

Purple is the color of domestic violence awareness. It stands for the courage of people living with control, intimidation and harm inside their own homes — and for the communities that believe them.

Teal is the color of healing after loss and trauma. It stands for remembrance of those who did not survive, and for steady support for the people who carry that grief.

Woven together, these two colors are the heart of MendRii: recognition of abuse that is happening now, and hope for what comes after. They are why you see purple and teal across everything we make.

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