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Use a device the other person can't reach

If your phone or laptop might be monitored, do your reading and any planning on a device they have no access to — a work computer, a library machine, or a trusted friend's phone.

Tell one person you trust

One outside person who knows what's happening changes a lot. It doesn't have to be family, and it doesn't have to be a decision to leave.

Know where your documents are

ID, passports, birth certificates, bank details, immigration papers, prescriptions. Knowing where they are — or keeping copies somewhere safe — keeps options open.

Keep a dated log, stored safely

Short factual notes: date, what was said or done, how you felt. Store it in a place the other person can't see, such as an account they don't know about.

Have a plan for the worst hour

If things escalate: where would you go, who would you call, what would you take, how would you get there? Deciding this calmly now is easier than deciding it in a crisis.

Talk to a specialist advocate before making moves

Advocates on the lines above do this every day. They can talk through risk, housing, children and legal options in your specific area — which this app cannot.